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Friday, March 07, 2008

Ask Baba Ali - "Racism & Pride"

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59 Comments:

At March 07, 2008 12:23 PM, Blogger Baba Ali said...

something is wrong..i will try to upload again

 
At March 07, 2008 12:32 PM, Blogger aneebaba said...

Salam! Loved it! Loved it! Loved it! Another great vid bro! Also liked how you squeezed a little mini-reminder in there as well, as that's what a lot of the comments were pointing towards, so that's a nice touch.

"You are from the dark side" lol.

Best wishes to Muslimah as well.

 
At March 07, 2008 12:33 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

Hey Ali
Is This My Idea
From The School One
?
And I Wrote My Name As Ananymous

 
At March 07, 2008 1:20 PM, Blogger Rana said...

yah it is not working !!

 
At March 07, 2008 1:23 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

I can't see it! Nooooooooooooooooooooo waiting all week for this :'(

 
At March 07, 2008 2:26 PM, Blogger Bhavna said...

Ali,

please please address the issue of polygamy in Islam... it is widely misunderstood and it gives non-Muslims an excuse to bash Islam as backward and favoring men as superior to women. What is the state of polygamy in the modern day and how should one understand it in Islam according to the MODERN day??? Many people yearn for this answer!

-Bhavna

 
At March 07, 2008 2:56 PM, Anonymous snaa said...

Hey Bhavna,
Hope your well. That is actually a good topic,because i think muslims aswell as non-muslims, may have a not so clear idea on the reasoning for polygamy.
Once you research into it tho,it is all logical and make sense.But gud idea to do a video on it.


Wslaam-with Peace
Snaa

 
At March 07, 2008 4:03 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

mashalla very gr8 vedio! keep up the good work bro.

 
At March 07, 2008 4:28 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

Assalamualaikum

Bhavna, I will TRY to address ur question with regard to polygamy...

Why are muslim men allowed to practice polygamy whereas muslim women cannot?

FIRST and FOREMOST, because I believe my Lord the Creator Allah allowed men to do so and commanded that women cannot. That is what I believe and if you believe that your Creator commanded you to do something, would you dare turn your back on His Command?


Now, to elaborate, let's break down your question:

1) Why are men allowed to have multiple wives?

First of all, prior to Islam, men could have an UNLIMITED number of wives to the point where you could be walking down the street and pass by your wife, AND NOT KNOW SHE'S YOUR WIFE!! Islam gave restrictions to this by limiting it to a MAXIMUM of 4 wives.

Secondly, generally men have a natural desire to have more than 1 partner. Now, many kufar wish to say Islam practices polygamy, but practically EVERY CULTURE you see today does the same!! We call it promiscuity. How many kufar have you seen condemning Islam's stand on polygamy but at the same time they are sleeping with multiple partners? Or having premarital and extramarital sex? This is blatant and even ignorant hypocrisy!!

Now, basically, Islam limited the number of wives a man can have, and at the same time, did not neglect the animal nature of men, that is to have more than 1 partner. However, all this is done in the BOUNDARIES that Allah has set up for us, which is legal marriage (nikah). Besides all this, we must treat every wife fairly and equally, and if we have no means to do so, stick to ONE wife...



Now the second question:

2) Why can't women have more than 1 husband then?

Okay, as always, I respond firstly with "Because I believe that Allah my Lord commanded it so, and He knows best and I do not dare to disobey Him."

Now, coming to a secondary issue, because GENERALLY, women do not have a desire to have more than 1 partner. Just ask around if they would like to have 2 husbands.

But all this aside, just assuming that some do want to have 2 partners, let's ask a TOTALLY LOGICAL question...

If a man marries 2 wives, and 1 of them has a child, does the child know who his mother is? Yes, he does. Does he know who his father is? Yes he does.

However, if a woman has 2 husbands, and she has a child, does the child know who his father is? Not necessarily. That is why you see so many women in the US not even knowing who their baby's daddy is...

As you can see from the 2 different natures of men and women, you can see why we cannot be put on this same equation. It's like comparing apples with oranges. Or I also like to put it in this analogy:

If you have a scale, you put six apples on 1 side, and six watermelons on the other, and assuming 6 apples equals the weight of 1 watermelon, will the scale be balanced? Of course not.

Islam is the exact same concept. Equality does not mean giving the same rights to both parties. It means giving different rights to the parties according to their needs and nature, so that there is BALANCE!!


Anyway, I should stop blabbering already... I hope my advice helps Insha Allah...


Wassalamualaikum

 
At March 07, 2008 4:41 PM, Blogger BAY said...

why do the "evil fob" characters always have to wear a kufi!! thats just wrong!

 
At March 07, 2008 5:42 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

the kufi is something cultural and has nothing to do with Islam.

 
At March 07, 2008 7:57 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

salam to the person who commented about having multiple wives... You totally contradicted yourself...if you saying Allah had ordained this way then khalas leave it at that. If Allah gave us the reason then bring it otherwise don't try to explain it in a such a poor and tasteless way. We are not animals neither are men or women. No one is higher then the other and the reasons you gave is/are just your opinion. when it comes to the deen provide an evidence from Quran or Sunnah and if it is an opinion it should also be based on Islam other wise please refrain from giving such opinions. We already have too many so called "I am a scholar" with all respect due. Hey Ali i know you can make an episode on this how Muslims read the translation of the meaing of the Quran or few hadith in English and now they are scholars (or attempt to answer all questions...)
you know what I am saying ;)
wa salam

 
At March 07, 2008 8:37 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

lmaoo great cross promotion baba ali!!

ii realli liked this video btw!!

thanks!!

=]

 
At March 08, 2008 12:05 AM, Anonymous Hails said...

Dark side...haha xD I think this is the best one so far.



To the person who commented on the person who commented on their opinion of why polygamy is acceptable...


"If Allah gave us the reason then bring it otherwise don't try to explain it in a such a poor and tasteless way."

While you may not agree with his opinion, that does not make it poor or tasteless.

"You totally contradicted yourself..."
"We already have too many so called "I am a scholar" with all respect due."

He never contradicted himself as far as I can tell, and he never claimed to be a scholar. You don't need to be a scholar to form an opinion. (Notice he said he will "TRY" to address the question--that hardly sounds like someone who has an inflated opinion of their knowledge of Islam.)

"No one is higher then the other and..."

While you worded it strangely, I'm pretty sure you're accusing him of claiming men are better than women. Nowhere in his comment did he make any such claim, rather, he said something along the lines of that while men and women are equal in God's eyes, they have different rights on earth, and I don't think anyone here can dispute that (Scholar or otherwise :P)


"if you saying Allah had ordained this way then khalas leave it at that."

There is nothing wrong with looking for the meaning behind the laws Allah has given us. He did say that the most important reason that polygamy is okay is that Allah said it was okay. All other reasons he stated were just elaborations on why polygamy is justified.

"when it comes to the deen provide an evidence from Quran or Sunnah and if it is an opinion it should also be based on Islam other wise please refrain from giving such opinions."

Why does every reason for something have to be rooted in the Quran? I might say I don't eat pork because Allah says I can't and that I think it tastes disgusting (I tasted it accidentally as a child), and that consuming pork can result in a variety of health problems. The most important reason may be that Allah forbids eating it, and I wouldn't eat it for that reason alone, but the other two reasons make avoiding eating it that much easier. Is that so wrong?

Sorry, but while I respect your opinion, I have to say I find your logic flawed :)

 
At March 08, 2008 12:21 AM, Anonymous Mariutze said...

Hello,

This video is awesome, absolutely great. I simply love it, it's one of the best so far. Racism is still such an important and delicate issue in our life. Keep up the good work. Looking forward to your next video.

Best wishes,
Maria

 
At March 08, 2008 2:11 AM, Blogger Sarah said...

Assalamu alaykum...

AWESOME video...too good..just loved it.loved ur advice too..May Allah reward you brother..Ameen

 
At March 08, 2008 2:50 AM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

Racism sucks, tribalism sucks more.

Glad this was addressed.

 
At March 08, 2008 3:45 AM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

Mashallah

Thanks for that bro :)

sis 4rm UK :)

 
At March 08, 2008 4:15 AM, Blogger Proudly said...

OMG , I totally can relate to that issue, I mean for myself i truly want to mary anyone good Muslim I don;t care from where he comes from, but unfortunatly being an Arab specially an Emirati girl that's gonna be impossible for that to come true.

Thanx alot Baba Ali and to Al Muslima , great job ^_^

 
At March 08, 2008 6:02 AM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

great video only you said prostate instead of prostrate

 
At March 08, 2008 6:16 AM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

Salaam aleikum,

Great subject and good thing to talk about. I often discuss this same issue with my mother and we never seem to agree. Her big fear is the culture clash but isn't islam supposed to conquer that?

Anyway, thanks for the great video!(and no worries, we hardly noticed your subtle dvd promotion).

Greetings from the Netherlands.

 
At March 08, 2008 7:38 AM, Blogger Kina said...

Masha Allah very nice,This is a great video,its like we are back in the old days,or its much more better now,keep it up bro,May Almighty Allah reward you in abundance and grant you Al-Janathul firudaus with the highest rank.

 
At March 08, 2008 7:45 AM, Blogger Tahira said...

Asalamualaikum bro.

Bravo! A very common issue tackled here! especially in the asian communities, even amongst the most practicing families! very important that people come out of the dark ages! May Allah reward u for ur efforts!

Wasalam

 
At March 08, 2008 12:15 PM, Anonymous Aicha said...

Salaam Ahlykoem,

Loved it!

even my sisterinlaw thinks that way, she is 24 yrs and she says that she would never allow her son or daughter to marry some girl or guy that is not moroccan....Personly I don't care where he's from aslong that he is muslim it's fine by me!

 
At March 08, 2008 4:38 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

Assalmulaikum Bro. Well awsm work again n i wish it could effect the so called ...whatevr..
jakalahulkhair.hey plz abt the polugamy i also want to have some answer to this thing...

 
At March 08, 2008 5:21 PM, Blogger jack said...

Mashallah, Awesome...!
I will show this to my father and I hope he will give me blessing to marry a revert girl I met in college.
She might be just a revert to my father's eye but sheknows more about Islam than I do.:(
Thank you Baba Ali, you are awesome!
May Allah accept all your good deeds, ameen.
"from the dark side!" loooooooool
Good luck!

 
At March 09, 2008 1:39 PM, Blogger aneebaba said...

Salam . .again! Just wanted to add to my previous comment and say thanks for making the day of Jumu'ah even more special. TGIJ!!!

 
At March 09, 2008 6:09 PM, Blogger Hiba said...

Assalamu aleikum,

Let me start by first saying: Excellent work mashallah! May god reward you for your efforts :)

I wrote this comment on youtube (but I can't see it there so I'm posting it again here).

The comment is about the advice you gave in the "Ask Baba Ali - "Racism & Pride"" video:

I agree with everything you said. But, I think Muslima and her cousin should still try to understand why exactly her parent are refusing. It might be that their concerns are not just because they are backwards/cultural/racist. They might be concerned about something specific but they don't know how to explain it except by saying: "he is from a lower class".

Difference in class can include difference in financial situation and in education. So some of the parent's concerns can include:

1- If a girl from a rich family marries a poor guy, she will have to change her lifestyle. If she is not ready/willing to do that, then it will cause a lot of stress for her and might ruin her marriage in the long run.

2- When you marry someone, you are not just marrying him. You are also marrying his family. You have to be able to live and interact with them too. If you find, for example, that his family's lack of education and etiquette bothers you A LOT, then you might want to consider how that might affect your marriage (and later on your kids).

A lot of the time, kids misunderstand what their parents are trying to tell them because they are not willing to listen. Instead of brushing it off by saying "Oh my parents are being racist and backwards", they should try to understand their parent's point of view before arguing against it.

I suggest that Muslima and her cousin ask her parents: "what difference will the class make? Other than how people will view us, etc."

There might be some advice that the parents have some points that Muslima and her cousins did not consider.

Best wishes and salams :)

 
At March 10, 2008 8:47 AM, Blogger What said...

salams,
that was a great video, cant say i miss the reminders anymore!!!!
nice advise too, especially the video part!!!...lol

 
At March 10, 2008 1:18 PM, Anonymous Leana said...

Assalamu Alaikum Ali,
Loved your video!!!!! The dvd bribe always work! Lol :)

 
At March 10, 2008 2:06 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

greattt video .. luved it.. im glad someone got to ask that its a very common issue here .. same here with me i dont care where he from as long a decent good muslim that can take care of me but ofcourse my parents disagree they think the perfect guy where they want him from will come .. anways keep up the good work baba Ali

 
At March 10, 2008 4:45 PM, Blogger Promilicious said...

Question...how much does it take to MAKE a movie? :S How much will it take you to make your movie? Just so we can shoot for something. I've noticed that on other sites when they ask for donations they have a certain goal...and I don't know about others but that motivates me to donate...either way. Meaning if they're really low, I feel bad for them and so I donate. If they're well on their way, I feel proud and optimistic and donate to push them a bit further. :P I don't know, I guess you can do a poll before you decide to post an amount up? Or...yeah you can also complete disregard this comment. :P (and I won't take any offense to it 'cause...well, life's too short.)

 
At March 10, 2008 9:11 PM, Blogger Baba Ali said...

assalammu' alaikum,

jazakAllah khair for all your comments.

as in regards of the movie, i hope to launch a website with its details by next week InshAllah.

ali

 
At March 12, 2008 10:06 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

asalam alakum,

First i want to start off by saying mashallah Ali.I wish their was much more muslims like you out their.I know someone who was in that same position as sad as it is.The man wanting to marry this woman is from the same country and i should even say same village.He is considered of "lower class" because back then iam talking about wayyy back the ancestors were either shoe polishers,meat cutters and eeven barbers.So this "lower class" nonsense stuck by "muslims" untill today.So for this girl she wasnt allowed to marry this man (both muslims by the way) and she is now married to another man and unhappy unfortunaly.I just wish our parents these days could just really be more into islam rather then culture. Inshallah may allah help every muslim/muslimah out there inshallah .

 
At March 17, 2008 12:03 PM, Blogger Nadine said...

On polygamy,

I was taught that before Islam, men could marry as many wives as they wanted. This would be a cultural tradition. Prophets had several wives because that was their culture. Islam introduced limits to this cultural practice.

Polygamy is forbidden in my country of origin. But I have come to understand that polygamy is practiced in Islam to solve social needs. One example would be a man whose first wife cannot bear children or satisfy his sexual needs. Another example could include a man marrying a widow and adopting her orphan children.

My sources include an Imam from my neighborhood, my family, and the European Council for Fatwa and Research.

 
At March 17, 2008 12:14 PM, Blogger Nadine said...

As an American, I am obsessed with racial relations. Our country has carried this burden since it's inception.

I plan to use this video to open up an honest dialog about race with youth that I volunteer with. Your statements can be applied to any group of people from Arab to African-American. This is an excellent editorial!

What I find especially disturbing is that "race" doesn't actually exist in humans, but racism does. We are all made up of the same genes, cells, and organs. There are no black, white, arab, hispanic, etc genes. In fact, when an Arab-American is asked his/her race, the correct answer is "white." According to the US Census, white means "all original people from Europe and the Middle East." Yet, every day I see or hear whites discriminating against Arabs...such ignorance!

 
At April 12, 2008 4:48 PM, Anonymous B said...

GREAT VIDEO LUD IT =D

 
At April 13, 2008 1:29 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

Saalam...

EXECELLENT VID.!

may Allah reward you...

 
At April 30, 2008 10:48 AM, Anonymous m said...

this hit home for me...

 
At May 19, 2008 5:10 AM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

Cants See the video

 
At July 25, 2008 1:24 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

Thank u so much bro Ali on ur videos.. but i think that time u r wrong because there must be a kind of similarity between husband and wife in their soical level not necessairly in the economical level because in the social level or the place where that husband is brought up is deeply affecting his manners and his priorities in his life and he is the controler in the family after marriage so this may creat HUGE clashes in their family after marriage.
I dont say that she shouldnt see him at all but she should meet him and TALK to know how much she could tolerate his life style.
All this to have at the end a happy family with the least kinda clashes.. may Allah guide us all 4 the right path , thanks again :)

 
At August 30, 2008 4:14 AM, Blogger DoNa said...

I love this one, its a huge issue in saudi arabia, thanx for bringing that up!

 
At September 12, 2008 9:26 PM, Anonymous Riyaz said...

Peace be on you!
Dear Brother Ali, hope this one finds you in best of times, I'm a regular viewer of your videos, they are great and you are a gifted person and you are making good use of it, all praise to Allah Azza Wajaw!!
hope the below detailed answer on Polygamy by Dr. Zakir Naik is of useful and very pragmatic. before that...
to the first person who cmmented on the Brief answer given to the question of Bhavana on Polygamy -

Dear Bro/Sis in Islam - Islam is a Beautiful religion with a lotta beautiful teachings, thus please let us show maturity and respect to other's views and answers without being reproachful, all said in in good terms :-), now let's get to the answer..

1. Definition of Polygamy
Polygamy means a system of marriage whereby one person has more than one spouse. Polygamy can be of two types.
One is polygyny where a man marries
more than one woman,
and the other is polyandry, where a woman marries more than one man. In Islam, limited polygyny is permitted; whereas polyandry
is completely prohibited.

Now coming to the original question, why is a man allowed to have more than
one wife?
2. The Qur’an is the only religious scripture in the world that says,
“marry only one”.
The Qur’an is the only religious book, on the face of this earth, that contains the
phrase ‘marry only one’. There is no other religious book that instructs men to
have only one wife. In none of the other religious scriptures, whether it be the
Vedas, the Ramayan, the Mahabharat, the Geeta, the Talmud or the Bible does
one find a restriction on the number of wives. According to these scriptures one
can marry as many as one wishes. It was only later, that the Hindu priests and
the Christian Church restricted the number of wives to one.
Many Hindu religious personalities, according to their scriptures, had multiple
wives. King Dashrat, the father of Rama, had more than one wife. Krishna had several wives.
In earlier times, Christian men were permitted as many wives as they wished, since the Bible puts no restriction on the number of wives. It was only a few
centuries ago that the Church restricted the number of wives to one.
Polygyny is permitted in Judaism. According to Talmudic law, Abraham had three wives, and Solomon had hundreds of wives. The practice of polygyny continued till Rabbi Gershom ben Yehudah (960 C.E to 1030 C.E) issued an edict against it. The Jewish Sephardic communities living in Muslim countries continued the practice till as late as 1950, until an Act of the Chief Rabbinate of Israel extended the ban on marrying more than one wife.
(*Interesting Note:- As per the 1975 census of India Hindus are more polygynous than Muslims. The report of the ‘Committee of The Status of Woman in Islam’, published in 1975 mentions on page numbers 66 and 67 that the percentage of polygamous marriages between the years 1951 and 1961
was 5.06% among the Hindus and only 4.31% among the Muslims. According to Indian law only Muslim men are permitted to have more than one wife. It is illegal for any non-Muslim in India to have more than one wife. Despite it being illegal, Hindus have more multiple wives as compared to Muslims. Earlier, there
was no restriction even on Hindu men with respect to the number of wives allowed. It was only in 1954, when the Hindu Marriage Act was passed that it became illegal for a Hindu to have more than one wife. At present it is the Indian
Law that restricts a Hindu man from having more than one wife and not the Hindu scriptures.)

Let us now analyse why Islam allows a man to have more than one wife.
3. Qur’an permits limited polygyny
As I mentioned earlier, Qur’an is the only religious book on the face of the earth that says ‘marry only one’. The context of this phrase is the following verse from
Surah Nisa of the Glorious Qur’an:
“Marry women of your choice, two, or three, or four; but if ye fear that ye shall not be able to deal justly (with them), then only one.”
[Al-Qur’an 4:3]
Before the Qur’an was revealed, there was no upper limit for polygyny and many men had scores of wives, some even hundreds. Islam put an upper limit of four wives. Islam gives a man permission to marry two, three or four women, only on the condition that he deals justly with them.
In the same chapter i.e. Surah Nisa verse 129 says:
“Ye are never able to be fair and just as between women....”
[Al-Qur’an 4:129]
Therefore polygyny is not a rule but an exception. Many people are under the misconception that it is compulsory for a Muslim man to have more than one wife.
Broadly, Islam has five categories of Do’s and Don’ts:
(i) ‘Fard’ i.e. compulsory or obligatory
(ii) ‘Mustahab’ i.e. recommended or encouraged
(iii) ‘Mubah’ i.e. permissible or allowed
(iv) ‘Makruh’ i.e. not recommended or discouraged
(v) ‘Haraam’ i.e. prohibited or forbidden
Polygyny falls in the middle category of things that are permissible. It cannot be
said that a Muslim who has two, three or four wives is a better Muslim as
compared to a Muslim who has only one wife.

4. Average life span of females is more than that of males
By nature males and females are born in approximately the same ratio.
A female child has more immunity than a male child. A female child can fight the
germs and diseases better than the male child. For this reason, during the
pediatric age itself there are more deaths among males as compared to the
females.
During wars, there are more men killed as compared to women. More men die
due to accidents and diseases than women. The average life span of females
is more than that of males, and at any given time one finds more widows in the world than widowers.
5. India has more male population than female due to female
foeticide and infanticide
India is one of the few countries, along with the other neighbouring countries, in which the female population is less than the male population. The reason lies in
the high rate of female infanticide in India, and the fact that more than one million female foetuses are aborted every year in this country, after they are
identified as females. If this evil practice is stopped, then India too will have more females as compared to males.
6. World female population is more than male population
In the USA, women outnumber men by 7.8 million. New York alone has one
million more females as compared to the number of males, and of the male population of New York one-third are gays i.e sodomites.

The U.S.A as a whole has more than twenty-five million gays. This means that these people do not
wish to marry women. Great Britain has four million more females as compared to males. Germany has five million more females as compared to males. Russia
has nine million more females than males. God alone knows how many million more females there are in the whole world as compared to males.
7. Restricting each and every man to have only one wife is not
practical, even if every man got married to one woman, there would still be more than thirty million females in U.S.A who would not be able to get husbands
(considering that America has twenty five million gays). There would be more than four million females in Great Britain, 5 million females in Germany and nine
million females in Russia alone who would not be able to find a husband.
Suppose my sister happens to be one of the unmarried women living in USA, or suppose your sister happens to be one of the unmarried women in USA. The only two options remaining for her are that she either marries a man who already has a wife or becomes 'public property'. There is no other option.

All those who are modest will opt for the first. Most women would not like to share their husband with other women. But in Islam when the situation deems it really necessary Muslim women in due faith
could bear a small personal loss to prevent a greater loss of letting other Muslim sisters becoming 'public properties'.
8. Marring a married man preferable to becoming 'public property'
In Western society, it is common for a man to have mistresses and/or multiple
extra-marital affairs, in which case, the woman leads a disgraceful, unprotected
life. The same society, however, cannot accept a man having more than one wife, in which women retain their honourable, dignified position in society and lead a protected life.
Thus the only two options before a woman who cannot find a husband is to marry a married man or to become 'public property'. Islam prefers giving women the honourable position by permitting the first option and disallowing the
second.

There are several other reasons, why Islam has permitted limited polygyny, but it is mainly to protect the modesty of women.
2. POLYANDRY
Question:
If a man is allowed to have more than one wife, then why does Islam prohibit a woman from having more than one husband?
Answer:
A lot of people, including some Muslims, question the logic of allowing Muslim men to have more than one spouse while denying the same ‘right’ to women.
Let me first state emphatically, that the foundation of an Islamic society is justice and equity. Allah has created men and women as equal, but with different
capabilities and different responsibilities. Men and women are different, physiologically and psychologically. Their roles and responsibilities are different.
Men and women are equal in Islam, but not identical.
Surah Nisa’ Chapter 4 verses 22 to 24 gives the list of women with whom Muslim men can not marry. It is further mentioned in Surah Nisa’ Chapter 4 verse 24 “Also (prohibited are) women already married”
The following points enumerate the reasons why polyandry is prohibited in Islam:
1. If a man has more than one wife, the parents of the children born of such marriages can easily be identified. The father as well as the mother can easily be identified. In case of a woman marrying more than one husband,
only the mother of the children born of such marriages will be identified and not the father. Islam gives tremendous importance to the identification of
both parents, mother and father. Psychologists tell us that children who do not know their parents, especially their father undergo severe mental trauma and dist rbances. Often they have an unhappy childhood. It is for
this reason that the children of prostitutes do not have a healthy childhood.
If a child born of such wedlock is admitted in school, and when the mother
is asked the name of the father, she would have to give two or more names!
I am aware that recent advances in science have made it possible for both the mother and father to be identified with the help of genetic testing. Thus this point which was applicable for the past may not be applicable for the
present.
2. Man is more polygamous by nature as compared to a woman.
3. Biologically, it is easier for a man to perform his duties as a husband despite
having several wives. A woman, in a similar position, having several
husbands, will not find it possible to perform her duties as a wife.
A woman undergoes several psychological and behavioral changes due to different
phases of the menstrual cycle.
4. A woman who has more than one husband will have several sexual
partners at the same time and has a high chance of acquiring venereal or sexually transmitted diseases which can also be transmitted back to her husband even if all of them have no extra-marital sex. This is not the case
in a man having more than one wife, and none of them having extra-marital sex.
The above reasons are those that one can easily identify. There are probably many more reasons why Allah, in His Infinite Wisdom, has prohibited polyandry.
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At October 09, 2008 2:09 PM, Blogger 4th said...

Lol shameless ad, nice! Nice vid

 
At October 24, 2008 11:08 AM, Anonymous Amina Adan said...

I LOVE U
personalyy
I LOVE U
IN THE PATH OF ALLAH
man u make me want to make my little brothers learn from u instead of our parents who are open minded and cool
I AM A Somali-American
raised in america but pure somali also multicultural
because of being exposed to different countries
i travel a lot i am a University about to get out of Pharmacy school
LOVE U
e-mail me please At Amina_adan@yahoo.com

 
At November 24, 2008 12:51 PM, Anonymous Amani said...

another great one ,,

best wishes

 
At December 20, 2008 4:53 PM, Blogger Vincent said...

Love the video and the advice you gave. keep up the good work.

 
At December 25, 2008 12:55 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

Finally! Someone talking about this issue! It is very stupid how people think that way when it comes to marriage. Not only do they think that way when it comes to marriage, but my parents even tell me not to be friends with certain girls because they are not from a "high class family"! For me I dont care what a person looks like, who their family is, all i care about is that they are good muslim sisters and good friends! So again thank you for all the work you do with UMMAHFILMS.COM!!

 
At February 08, 2009 5:31 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

i love your videos. and i also want to see more of your videos they make so much sence. i bet if a non muslim sees half your videos they would convert into muslim. pleeease make more videos

 
At March 25, 2009 11:30 AM, Anonymous Afrah said...

Awesome Video!Mashallah! Loved It!!

 
At March 27, 2009 5:26 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

Of course, I used to have this wierd belief that God sent angels down into the womb and became humans. What does the Koran say how Allah created people. You know the greeting, Good-bye, it is a greeting which means God be with you. Best of luck to you and your career.

 
At May 18, 2009 5:46 AM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

funnny brother,and that darn accent makes me crack up every time I hear it....

 
At June 04, 2009 12:13 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

Salamalaikum everyone
Has anyone heard or watched the arrivals?
I think it is a good idea if u do films on stuff like the Dajjal or the return of Isa pbuh or imam Mahdi. It would be interesting.
Jus plz dnt lose ur unique way of speaking and informing. Lol
Best wishes!

 
At July 27, 2009 10:01 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

salam, about the issue of polygamy, i suggest listen to Sheikh Imran Hossein who talks about marriage and in his talk he explains it very well, www.imranhosein.org
inshallah this will answer ur questions

 
At September 23, 2009 9:18 AM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

i love your videos! may Allah bless you :)
this is kind of off but i reallllly want to see ur family,i mean ur wife and kids, if u dont mind:$ and im a girl so u shouldnt really have a problem lol:) i hope so..anyway keep up the great work.

 
At July 06, 2010 11:06 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

Assalamu alaykum warahmatAllah
masha Allah that was great.
I've been going from one place to another trying to see where to post my question, but so far I've gotten nowhere.
So I'm hope that I could post my question here and that you'll get chance to read and reply. So here it goes. As a student in a masjid teaching class I was hopeing that you will some day when you get the chance to make a video about the manners of a student durring an Islamic class. Manners from backbiting, laughing and talking when the teacher is teaching or when someone is reading Quran, making fun of people, and saying things bad about
"boaters" wheather to the or to other people. And finally eating while the class is in session. Thank you I realy hope you will because I just simply can't handle it any longer. I might be going to another place like all the other sisters from before.
Ps. can you also say about how much bad deeds they can get from getting someone to stop comming because of their rude manners. Once again thank you and Jazaka Allahu khayra

 
At March 04, 2012 9:39 PM, Blogger SunnyU said...

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At March 04, 2012 9:41 PM, Blogger SunnyU said...

Salaam M here
I recently joined your website halfourdeen.com, and I met a candidate for my courtship dating but the problem is that he lives in Canada and I live in San Diego. So now that we like each other, what would be the next step. We know each others intentions, and that's to get marriage down the road inshallah if Allah wills it. Therefore, what do we do now, I want to know more about him and I think he wants to know more about me. I do not want to give him my phone number, for I feel that’s too soon. What would be a great way to start our courtship, halal dating in Islam. I'm new to this courtship and marriage topic, and I do not wish to get any sins inshallah.
So Baba Ali what should I do.

 
At May 03, 2012 1:18 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

Salaam Baba Ali,
I'm converted to Islam and it's been four years now. Since the beginning I have been in the Arab community, I'm not Arab though. It is possible that we find good and bad things in many place, maybe I do not have the appropriate words but I'm writing this having the fear of God in my heart/brain. I and my family knows that I'm a very patient person, who always gives generous amount time to all the around me before stopping any kind of communication with them and not to judge them. But some people from Middle East and also some from India/Pakistan, they have always made me feel "OUTSIDER". In fact, I can give my story to you to make a film on it. But right now I do not want that to happen. To the point, so I stopped going to this community after three years I have been there. I just do not understand why some people cannot behave well with new Muslims, they call themselves Religious, they will come the the lessons, and they will take advantage of you one or another way. My advise to such people is, please stop this thing, this way you will never attract any new Muslims. And even I see that many people I saw there only couple of times, this Arab pride is preventing new people to join the community. I wish people learn a lesson from my story.

 

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