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Friday, March 14, 2008

Ask Baba Ali - "We're Just Friends"

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77 Comments:

At March 14, 2008 12:59 PM, Anonymous sis said...

first akhi!!!!!!!!!!!!

 
At March 14, 2008 1:17 PM, Blogger iMuslim said...

It's telling me the video is no longer available... :/

 
At March 14, 2008 1:33 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

Me too, NOOO.

 
At March 14, 2008 1:37 PM, Anonymous sis said...

ME TOO!

 
At March 14, 2008 1:38 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

NOW THE TIMER IS COUNTING UP, LOL!

 
At March 14, 2008 2:08 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

i've been at my computer 4 an hour now, i give up!!! X0(

 
At March 14, 2008 2:52 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

it's saying the video is no longer available..

 
At March 14, 2008 3:16 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

yeah, it is telling me the video is no longer available also. Nooooo! I always look forward to these so much=(.

 
At March 14, 2008 3:21 PM, Blogger aneebaba said...

Let's hope Br Ali checks up on the problem as soon as he has time. Been waiting for 2 hours - but hey patience is a virtue! :-)

 
At March 14, 2008 4:00 PM, Anonymous abdul MALIK said...

Ali!!!!! Thats your best episode in the series so far! Great points and insight, jazakAllah khair

 
At March 14, 2008 5:01 PM, Blogger aneebaba said...

Salam Br. Ali - That was yet another great vid and yes, I too think that was even better than last week's. I am glad you covered this topic yet again. It even helped me - an oldie, lol. (I think at least!)It's definitely something I am seeing more of these days within the Ummah. By the way, was that a bit of a plug for the production you guys are putting together (eg. TNC)? Anyways, looking forward to the finale next week. Thanks so much for another wonderful series. May you be rewarded for you efforts! Peace.

 
At March 14, 2008 5:02 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

great episode, more serious than usual, but that was probably needed. But what if your parents don't get out much and the only hope of you getting married is to venture out yourself? Then is it okay?

 
At March 14, 2008 5:47 PM, Anonymous Rehabalnajjar said...

Great Video again Br. BaBa Ali :) Today our FRIDAY KHUTBA was about what you were talking about at 8:25. "This is just a temporary world...the hereafter is FOREVER". So we must always think about our actions. Jazak Allah Kool Khair

 
At March 14, 2008 6:00 PM, Anonymous kabababab said...

yooo me and future wife want to get married. We started liking each other so we told our parents and they approved it, but they want us to wait until after we get jobs before they do anything. That means no nikka, not even engagement for 6 years (cuz of med skool)! wut do we do?

 
At March 14, 2008 7:19 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

Mashallah.....Great video once again.
I am happy to see that haram Police guy after a long time...LMAO...Good work.....Looking forward to Big Movie...keep it up...make sure you have the haram police guy in there too....i guess i love that character.

 
At March 14, 2008 7:40 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

Salaam Bro
Really glad u coverd dis topic as there are many of our brothers and sisters out there in todays society to think its ok to have a boyfriend or girlfriend.
Great video......yet again!!!!
May Allah (swt) bless u 4 all ur hard work and time put into these video's.
JazakAllah
Salaam

 
At March 14, 2008 8:35 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

doesn't Islam allow mutah (temporary marriage) as a means to got to know someone before we make a huge decision like marriage?

 
At March 15, 2008 12:05 AM, Anonymous sis said...

still doesn't work for me !!!

 
At March 15, 2008 12:21 AM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

No Islam doesnt allow temporry marriage. A marriage should be forever. If a marriage ends then the SEVEN HEAVENS SHAKE. That is how much it is disliked by Allah!
Having said that, the vid was awsome masha Allah. Its a shame that people are forced to have these relationships behind their parents back in order to "please their parents" yet they donnot want to please Allah SWT.

 
At March 15, 2008 12:22 AM, Anonymous sumaya said...

very good advice brotha!
a really good reminder...
May Allah reward you

 
At March 15, 2008 3:15 AM, Blogger Sarah said...

Assalamu'alaikum brother Ali.

this is an EXCELLENT piece of advice..just loved it. many a times i'm caught up in a sitution where i've to explain/clear "we're just friends" kind of relationship to my friends.and i used to find it really hard..now that you have posted this video i can easily mail them this link..Alhamdulillah.

JazakAllahu khair for ur efforts,
your videos always help:)

your sister in Islam

 
At March 15, 2008 4:26 AM, Anonymous Just Me said...

Salaam ahlykoem,

I think this one was better then last week.Great job!

Damn it's so true, what the hell are we doing talking to boys and girls and having them as "friends"......I hate this world I'm living in, so much temptation everywhere....

 
At March 15, 2008 4:27 AM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

Salaam bro

jk for that mashallah it has good points.

inshallah all the best :)

sis@UK

 
At March 15, 2008 7:37 AM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

salam alikum
really good topic,the subject is often avoided and i am very happy that what you said have been said the way you choose.
does it really mean that friendship between a man and a woman is impossible?

 
At March 15, 2008 8:06 AM, Anonymous aisha said...

thanks for the great video, its so blatently true. .. yet, we deny, like the foolsih human beings we are. i suppose it gets easier with increased faith and less ignorance on the matter.
thanks again, may allah bless u for all the hard work ure doing

 
At March 15, 2008 8:10 AM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

as salam walaikum brother,
that was very eye opening. thanks for addressing this topic.
may Allah bless you :)

 
At March 15, 2008 8:46 AM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

salam brother very good vid keep up the awesome work salam

 
At March 15, 2008 1:25 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

i know it's haram..but wht if ur parents are tryign to be good muslim and sometimes they just can't be cuae they can't leave their culture tradition..they just want u to marry the guy u they like..and no matter what they won't understand that u don't like that guy..they will just force u marry that guy..baba ali r u still advicing me to get marry with a guy who i don't like, don't liek at all //and that's just to make my parents happy?

 
At March 15, 2008 5:20 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

good job being strait up

:)

 
At March 15, 2008 6:00 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

As much as I hateeee to admit it... your words couldn't be any closer to the truth. Jazakallah kheir.

 
At March 15, 2008 8:41 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

u have to refresh; that's what i did =). excellent Video. thanks for spreading this message to our brothers and sisters and non muslims. Inshallah things can change.

 
At March 15, 2008 9:42 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

THANK U!!!!!!!!!!!!! i had this doubt for such a longg longgggg longgggggggg time!!!!..

 
At March 16, 2008 7:08 AM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

salaam

that was one of your best videos yet...i absolutely loved it.
i think it was a good topic to discuss and alot of people will benefit from it.
may Allah bless you for your efforts and hard work and accept it all from you.

keep up the good work bro!
can't wait for the finale next week...
salaam.

 
At March 16, 2008 7:31 AM, Blogger Tahira said...

Asalamualaikum bro!

Classic question and veryyyyy common! May Allah protect us from the fitnah and misconceptions we have! And as always may Allah reward u for ur efforts!

Wasalam

 
At March 16, 2008 11:22 AM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

tru but harsh .. good job but still lil confusing

 
At March 16, 2008 11:53 AM, Blogger Syed Muhammed said...

Alhamdulillah to the video....

to some of the questions above, forced marriage is not allowed in Islam. And to the person who is in med school and cannot get married for next 6 years, you still cannot be alone with your 'future wife' unless there is a third party who KNOWS the relationship of both of you.

 
At March 17, 2008 11:50 AM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

SELAM, good topic. People who are not intending to get married yet should put their focus on learning more about Islam not on the opposite sex. If people are planning to marry then they should discuss what they are looking for in a husband and wife and skip the dating for years seen. It is not good to prolong marriage. There is no playing around when it comes to marriage. It is a very serious decision and should be taken seriously. The more time you spend dating around the more haram you end up doing.

 
At March 17, 2008 1:03 PM, Anonymous Saira said...

MashaAllah, Brother Ali.

That was one good video.

Don't ever lose that honesty.

 
At March 17, 2008 1:07 PM, Anonymous Saira said...

kabababab:

Sabr, brother.

That's it.

May Allah guide you to do what's right.

 
At March 17, 2008 10:28 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

Salams!!
mA!!! amazing job alhamdillah someone shares the same common sense as i do! i cannot count how many times i've had this conversation with my sisters and brothers of Islam and even non muslims. Everyone wants to make it okay because it is the norm this now a days but it isn't.best video you have made PERIOD. even though i do love "muslim while flying!" lol

JAK

 
At March 18, 2008 12:41 PM, Blogger Madiha said...

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At March 18, 2008 12:46 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

Assalamo-alaikum
Masha'Allah! This video is absolutely amazing. It was a great reminder for me and really opened my eyes to the fact that i might be going down the wrong path by considering a person i know a 'friend'. Even though i do know that it's not possible in Islam for a guy and a girl to be 'just friends'. But, yeah, i needed a reminder. Plz pray that Allah gives me the strength to do what's right.

 
At March 21, 2008 10:21 AM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

Assalaamu alaikum!

Your best episode so far in this series! Keep it up and well done ALhamdulillah.

I hope together, we can all help to raise enough money for the film!!!

Come on people, every little adds up!!

 
At March 27, 2008 9:18 AM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

MashaAllah brother, because of your video I've been able to advise my teenage friend through you, something I had tried many times but never seemed to have an effect coming from my mouth...

JazakAllah khair, and I sincerely pray that Allah gives you every success in this life and the hereafter.

I'm proud to be your sister in Islam.

 
At April 07, 2008 8:13 PM, Blogger Hafsa said...

you SHOULD have started from number 1, you forgot the main teaching of allah and the prophet anout this issue.keeping that point in mind will help outr brothers and sisters in islam.
it is LOWER YOUR GAZE!
if no one is going to look, then these issues will never start, which is the way it was planned.

 
At April 07, 2008 8:24 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

Assalamu3alikum!!!!!!

Wallahi bro, this was spectacular. You probably get that alot, but it does effect many lives, in a good way al7amdulilah.
Once in the grasp of haram, you try hard to steer your way around in order to lie to yourself and think that its not haram.

"im not doing zina"

You try to 'twist' the truth in order for it to suit you. Thank you Ali, for putting this into perspective. Jazaak Allh Kheir. You helped make me a better Muslim, and i appreciate it.

Sallamu3alaikum bro.

 
At April 16, 2008 8:15 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

Hey Baba Ali,
Thanks for your clips. I just wondering in the way that you are presenting this matter, you just went straight to the haram point of view. As you said it before marriage is expensive now a days, and young man cannot do it in anyways sadly. The desier to be with someone is hard to find, but when you found it and your parents, religion and other mankind low make it not to happen you will go to the Haram way. Put everything aside and forget about them.

Been a muslim I am looking for a muslim girls. I had seen a girl 5 years ago,only coz of been Sunni or Shia our parents didnt let us to happen. Make it short, Religion didn't come to separate us, It came to make us as one. So yes, now a days Haram ways to get what you want is easier and better.

Sorry But that the reality
Mohammad (III)

 
At April 18, 2008 5:19 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

wow Ali.... VERY DRAMATIC the girlfriend boyfriend issue? wow.

 
At May 05, 2008 8:36 AM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

Hi Baba Ali,

Thanks God, chaytane does not know what we are thinking about. Nobody knows except God. I am 100% sure of that but you can check :)

Salam

 
At May 23, 2008 7:52 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

Assalamu'alaikum Ali...
Sorry 4 this, but I don't know how and where to ask Baba Ali
So, i want to ask you directly from this comment. By the way, it's nice video ^_^
OK, I have a problem about woman - man relationship. I work in laboratories where many times there are only me and one male staff working and discussing together. how's ur opinion about this? I'm still confused whether I had just done the "khalwat" -which is haram, or not? And how am I suposed to do about my job in laboratories.
Jazakumullah khairan katsira
-aswa19-

 
At August 05, 2008 6:52 AM, Blogger Hilary H said...

Ali, I am confused. You mention men's sexual desire for women and women's desire for attention for reasons as why men and women like to hang out together. I find it hard to believe that you as a more secular youth find in your adult life better now with only friends from one sex. I respect your religion, but I also feel sorry for you in your judgment of the female's "otherness" and your limited views on women. Have you ever Foucault or Malevich? (I suggest Malevich, but neither of them are feminists or talk about women). Plus, how can you trust a religion's view on women that was written by a man that married a nine year old girl? I also notice that you don't mention women's desire for sex. Did you know that women also have the same desires as men? For the record, female sexuality works much differently than men's, and even strait women hang out with women because of the sexual tension. Does that mean Muslim women should stay alone in a room or does Islam approve of girls on girls?

 
At September 26, 2008 4:53 PM, Anonymous sami lagod said...

very good mashallah

 
At September 30, 2008 3:02 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

you hadd some really good advicee thanks

 
At October 07, 2008 9:09 AM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

LOOOOOOOOOOOOOOL.
Thank you thank you!
Jazak Allah khair.
PLEASE make more baba ali videos!!!:(

 
At October 22, 2008 8:16 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

Jazak Allahu Khairan!
very good video. makes you think.
this video sort of ties in with an older video that Baba Ali made a while back, in which he says that parents make it hard for their children to stay on the Right Path when it comes to the issue of marriage.
Insha'Allah you'll get lots of support to make your movie!!!

 
At December 21, 2008 6:03 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

i love this video, it's clear and explains what the truth is. thank u so much!!!!

 
At December 28, 2008 11:34 PM, Blogger Aamer Trambu said...

Great work!
I just spoke to my DAD about my relationship yesterday.

Im glad im out of the haram now!

 
At October 15, 2009 8:24 AM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

Salam to all!:)

i don't know what to do cuz the person i really like is someone i met online, and we live in two different countries. I don't know if starting to chat with him in the first place was wrong. He also likes me. After watching this vid i have a qn:Should we stop talking till we meet each other in person or something?

Thanks alot, egygal(:

 
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At February 03, 2010 3:19 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

I don't get it! If dating is wrong and friendship between a guy and a girl is wrong, am I supposed to marry someone I don't know??

 
At February 15, 2010 8:11 AM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

ur amazing i am guna tell every muslm i no bout u

 
At February 19, 2010 11:08 AM, OpenID yasminyusop said...

Salamalaykum,
SubhanAllah very good video. Its true that this boy-girl thing is a big problem in today's society. May Allah guide us, strengthen our hearts and our faith so we would not fall into the syaitan's trap.

 
At March 21, 2010 1:52 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

Mashaallah my brother I enjoy listing to you. Baraka Allahu fik

 
At April 16, 2010 9:49 AM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

I think there's probably problem with your youtube because the same thing happened to me because at the time youtube wasnt working properly. Just give it a few hours or a day and it'll go back to normal inshaAllah :)

 
At July 05, 2010 2:28 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

I need some help.
I just wanna know a couple
examples in how you can bring it up
to your parents that you want to get married..
WHEN YOUR A GIRL.

 
At July 22, 2010 3:41 AM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

nice one

 
At July 22, 2010 8:20 AM, Anonymous RAFI said...

I really like what u do.
I can't imagine that i discover ur videos right now.
DO u read comments on your videos ?? And do u think to come in France ! Why not ?!!!
Bonne Continuation !!!
Barak allah oufik !!
Rafi from Paris

 
At August 29, 2010 7:10 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

OIIIIH!!! lol seems some people take everything literally...judging from the comments... esp the girl that talks about female sexuality...etc. WHO said anything against wat she said??? she chose to see it that way!!! so, go take ur propoganda somewhere else, cos this is not for u, its for muslims who WANT TO LEARN SOMETHING

 
At November 18, 2010 8:56 AM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

slam alaykom jazaka llah khayran

 
At April 18, 2011 8:13 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

Salam Baba Ali,
just letting you know that you are probably the most awesome person I've ever watched online, may Allah swt bless you, and give you the ability to keep doing what your doing and even more, inshAllah. You are an inspiration to both muslims and non-muslims, and you will be greatly rewarded for your unbelievably remarkable doings. All the best, and can't wait to see you in Montreal, inshAllah! salam.

 
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