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Wednesday, July 16, 2008

Being Muslim and Politically Incorrect

Bismillah ar-Rahmaan ar-Raheem,

In some of my videos, I will make fun of the cultural things we do that take us away from our Deen with the hopes that people will become shy of doing such actions in the future. If I could only get a dollar for each time a wave of Hijabs go up and eyes go down when the someone starts off the wedding ceremony with the recitation of the Holy Qu'ran. You would think the believe that Allah (swt) is only watching us whenever the Qu'ran is being recited.

One wedding I went to, the girl didn't have her hijab nearby so she put a napkin on her head. I'm thinking to myself, you must be kidding? Am I the only person noticing this? Maybe this type of thing happens so much that we have become immune to it or maybe nobody has the courage to bring it up because they don't want to be blacklisted from the Muslim wedding list. I've been one of those people and then one day, I didn't care anymore about being politically correct and that's why I brought up this and the many other issues in my videos. It's funny because the wedding that starts off with a recitation of powerful Surah reminding us of our Deen, ends with people dancing like there is no tomorrow on the dance floor. Anyways, my point isn't about the weddings but rather the overall numbness that we have adopted with it comes to certain Islamic issues.

I think its important to bring up issues but you have to do it in a specific way. My strategy is to bring up certain issues in lighthearted way with the hopes that it will capture the attention of the people InshAllah.
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At July 17, 2008 10:28 PM, Blogger mkpmedia said...

Mash'Allah bro, look at you, blogging all week! Good to see you're really back into it!

Re: the hijab on/Hijab off thing, I've noticed it at every wedding I've been to. I think the Quran recitation is fine, just stay totally islamic the whole way then.

Best/worst one was last time, where a bit after dinner began the hall-supplied DJ, not realizing our rules, full on started up the dance floor, music, disco lights and all. Real awkward moment as we all sat there waiting for someone to sort it out, made more awkward by 3/4 aunties going up and actually dancing! Then the video guys turned the cameras on them, projecting things that, Islamic rules aside, should never be projected onto no less than 10 huge screens in all directions

At July 18, 2008 9:46 AM, Blogger Unknown said...

Maybe you should stop going to those kinds of weddings. That might make a greater impact, then making a video about them.

The Prophet said: ‘You will follow the ways of those nations who were before you, span by span and cubit by cubit (i.e., inch by inch) so much so that even if they entered a hole of a lizard, you would follow them.’ We said, ‘O Allah's Apostle! (Do you mean) the Jews and the Christians?’ He said, ‘Whom else?’

At July 19, 2008 8:14 AM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

Asalaamu alaikum brother.
I hope you are not working too hard!
According to the book "Islamic Morals and Manners" (sold at every masjid bookstore I've seen) amusements (music specifically) not normally permitted are OK at weddings. But the lyrics must be clean naturally.

And the wedding feast should be on the following day, after consumation.

Allah Haffiz.


At July 19, 2008 8:35 AM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

Asalam Alaykum,
what was you doing at a mixed wedding anyways?
and dont wear yourself out, you need to eat and sleep as usual.


At July 19, 2008 4:51 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

@ isa

Well it's not like he can really phone ahead and ask if there are going to be a bunch of people who temporarily wear the hijab.

At July 20, 2008 2:46 PM, Blogger Unknown said...

That's true!

Well, you usually know what kind of wedding it is going to be ahead of time!

At July 20, 2008 10:53 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

you know wht da problem with us muslims is.... da fact dat we try to get around thingz and make them work out for us da way we want it to....
ish... you know wht bro Ali waz trying to say, y get around it and mke it to something else.... an invention shouldnt be turned down in da first place, and if everyone dat practice just stop going to weddingz bcuz sum sister dont cover, then where is da unity dat we alwayz brag on about gonna be if we cant have it with our own muslim community? every community has it gud and bads, how would you relize it if you wernt told about it, and true some ppl are so into it dat they them self dot relize it unless reminded of.
bro ali i luv da fact dat you actually come up wid such issues in your videoz, its not lyk any one else would have da guts to bring it up...

At July 24, 2008 5:23 AM, Blogger Unknown said...

Just let me comment on something here...

You can turn down a wedding invitation. There is nothing from Islam that says you must answer it by attending.

Also, you are not supposed to put yourself in a situation where you are sitting with people who are sinning openly, and going to a wedding where the people are Muslims, yet there is music, dancing and uncovered MUSLIM women, is putting yourself in such a situation.

If everyone would stop going to weddings where women didn't cover, it may make them realize that what they are doing is unacceptable. By people continuing to go to such events, you are saying that their behavior is okay- when it is not.

But whatever, I don't even know why I am responding intellectually to someone who can't even type in English.

At July 24, 2008 8:39 AM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

actually isa, i agree with everything you write, but, one small important point.
A muslim must always attend a wedding if invited.
The exception is if the host tolerates (or you know they will tolerate) non-islamic behavoir at the wedding.

At July 24, 2008 1:14 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...


just to add..if you are a strong muslim and have fear of God and put into a mixed environment you should be lowering your gaze...one look thats all your allowed...but not one LONG look! but i suppose in some cases it can't be helped...in which case you should remember that your Lord is watching you as He sees all and knows All...its like another test for us too...its like Allah is testing us as to how we deal in such a situation...

At July 25, 2008 12:38 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

Asallamu 'alaikum wa rahmatulLahi wa barakatuh


Also, that is one nummy-nummy looking cake, akhah.

At August 01, 2008 5:17 AM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

Just a comment on the title and the jist of what you are saying here...beingn politically correct for a Muslim is dangerous. If we let slide things we notice that our Muslim brothers and sisters are doing, we are allowing them to go unchecked and that can be a sin. If we stay silent when Islam is insulted to be politically correct then that can be a sin. If we listen while others say that Allah is one in three or that there are numerous gods being politically correct then we are demonstrating agreement with paganism and that can be a sin, and bad dawah.

Dawah, something we all should be doing, is in itself politically in correct, as we are showing an unwavering belief that what we are on is the right thing, and not only that, but you should change who you are to become one of us!

There's manners, there's the right time and right way to say things, and then there's political correctness and the Muslim should educate themselves as to the particulars of each to avoid error.

At August 08, 2008 1:41 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

hey asalamwaalaykum
DUDE I KNOW, the whole napkin thing my god!! i personally dont get it, my mum insist on it when i was at a wedding ..its taken a while but ive adopted hijab since then alhamdulillah and it feels great. my mum wasnt too happy and so im afraid to bring up the topic but god knows

At October 26, 2008 8:36 AM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

Salam People, The whole napkin thing, I see it in people's OWN homes!

But to be honest, about 7 years ago I made dua that I don't ever over lap with events that put me either in a difficult situation or a wrong setting, and Alhamdulilah I can say, that everytime someone invited me to a wedding, I was abroad or something else was in my way! WOOHOO Inshallah I hope Allah continues to guide and protect us all and increase us in imaan Ameeeeeennnn
Asalamu alaykum


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